But if I am thinking or feeling it then maybe you are too.
I read a tragic story about a beautiful young girl’s suicide brought on by years of suffering from mental illness.
Doris Fuller was a devoted mother to her bright and talented daughter Natalie.
They had a strong, loving, solid and open relationship.
Natalie was twenty-nine years old with a bright future- cut short by a leap in front of a moving train.
Doris Fuller wrote about her loss in the Washington Post – so that we can all be aware of the “monster” or “demon” that could be within our babies.
I am so sad for her, so scared for us.
And now I want to throw up.
When my son was born sixteen plus years ago, my “push gift” was a giant box of worry tied up with a super anxious bow.
Twenty months later, my baby girl arrived.
She came with a loud reminder that mommy will never sleep again!
Typical, common, and automatic (and bad enough!) are the fears of the routine stuff like food allergies, SIDS, drowning, choking, falling, illness, drinking, promiscuous sex, drugs, and the like.
Stranger danger! Pedophiles, kidnappers, liars, bullies, and innocence thieves run amok!
So we pad the walls and lock the doors (in theory) hoping to keep our kids safe.
But how do we keep our kids safe from themselves?
I wish I could give the answer, but I don’t have it.
I am not a doctor (and they don’t always have the answer!)
But as a mom in the trenches like you, I say
Make sure your kids know there’s no problem you are unwilling to help.
Make sure your kids know that being different is not a problem!
Make sure your kids know that their feelings don’t make them freaks.
Make sure your kids know they really CAN tell you EVERYTHING.
Make sure your kids know you love them EVEN when they make horrible mistakes, or are (the bad kind of) naughty.
Make sure your kids know you love them just the way they are!
Make sure as mothers we talk to each other about all of it- even the super scary potential reality of “demons” inside our kids.
And if said “demons” should emerge within your child, please scream for help.
Then pray a lot, even if you’re not much of a believer.