I’m still bothered by that mom Dara-Lynn Weiss’ exploitive article for Vogue magazine talking about her putting her daughter on a weight loss diet at 7 years old.Putting your daughter on a diet just might make her fatter!
I’m still bothered by that mom Dara-Lynn Weiss’ exploitive article for Vogue magazine talking about her putting her daughter on a weight loss diet at 7 years old.Objectified, Criticized, Vilified, – I suppose this is the dark side of being beautiful…
(Also posted on the huffington post) I feel for Ashley Judd. Really I do. I’ve been there!
I was teased for being overweight. A few years ago, I saw on the Internet that I’d been called
Jabba the Hutt — real creative! I was made to feel Invisible because I was not a “head turner”;
overlooked completely because my aesthetic didn’t measure up.
Three short years ago while I was still fat, I had a completely different life. Few “wanting” stares from men but plenty of disappointed ones. Few sales people in high end shops happy to show me merchandise, but many happy to offer the info that they did not carry my size, or tell me “THAT WILL NOT FIT YOU.” Plenty of “no wonder” looks in restaurants when I ordered dessert.
But I didn’t blame that life on the media or on my mom (well maybe a
little sometimes) or on men. Or on the oversexualizing of little girls or on my
being objectified as a woman.
I blamed it on me.
My weight’s spiralling out of control and my being somewhat unkempt was caused by me. Quietly inside, In fact, I was dying to be objectified for once.
Now, three years later, not fat and rocking clothes, hair and makeup
that sometimes (thankfully) cause men to peek and women to emulate, I’m happy. And I’m relieved that I’m getting some positive attention now because I know, at 42 years old, that my appeal in this way is not going to last forever.
I am well aware that the tide may shift tomorrow, next week or next month if I don’t work to keep myself together, and even if I do work super hard, I’m going to get old and lose my luster.
When that happens, I’m not going to blame anyone else.
If you want to comment on this post, I would love if you did so on the Huffington post.
Thanks!
XO
Jenny
here’s an exercise music playlist i made today. yes, i like the 70s, 80s, 90s and today!
i always shuffle- so this is not in any real order.
1. fighter: christina aguilera
2. while you see a chance: steve winwood
3. all i want is to feel this way: toad the wet sprocket
4. amazing: josh kelley
5. barely breathing: duncan sheik
6. the best of times: styx
7. black coffee in bed: squeeze
8. carry on wayward son: kansas
9. take me home: cher
10. don’t let him steal your heart away: phil collins
11. don’t stop me now: queen
12. enough is enough: donna summer/barbra streisand
13. criminal: fiona apple
14. december 1963: four seasons
15. i want your sex: george michael
16. hurt: chris cox radio version christina aguilera
17. i don’t care anymore: phil collins
18. i’m free: jon secada
19. if you could read my mind: amber, jocelyn enriquez, and ultra nate
20. just remember i love you: firefall
21. let’s hear it for the boy: deniece williams
22. maybe: sick puppies
23. maybe i’m amazed: keke palmer and jeremy jordan
24. not over you: gavin degraw
25. obsessed with you: the orion experience
26. oh happy day: sister act 2 back in the habit
27. on the floor (feat. pitbull): jennifer lopez
28. perfect way: scritty politti
29. son of a preacher man: dusty springfield
30. toxic: britney spears
31. the warrior: scandal
32. what makes you beautiful: one direction
33. call me maybe: carly rae jepsen
34. you had me: joss stone
35. without love: nikki blonsky and zac efron
36. you oughta know: alannis morissette
37. the main event: barbra streisand
39. freedom: wham
40. last night a dj saved my life: in deep
what’s on your exercise playlist?!
xo
jenny


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