My first date with keithy was december 2, 1995 (we had been in a class together since september but only started talking the week after thanksgiving). i had tried to set him up with a girlfriend of mine (thinking she was his type) but it turned out keithy didn’t like girls with small asses, he liked me…
On friday, december 2nd keithy called me and asked what i was doing that night- my nephew had been born late the night before so i was in my pjs planning to have a relaxing night at home (i spent many nights like this) and i told him that i was doing nothing but hanging around my apartment.. keithy said he wanted to come over and hang out with me- and so we had a date. a wonderful easy and relaxing date.
here is what we did.
we made dinner- some sort of pasta with broccoli- he brought the ingredients and we both cooked. we laughed, and we discussed what we thought other people were doing that night and then keithy put on my stereo and we danced- no joke- we danced like we were in a night club. next i told keithy that i could imagine being at a bar with him (i didn’t drink much then either- almost never) and we play acted being people at a bar. we were both very silly that night and i believe that night we fell in love.
11 years later, we are driving on i 95 with my niece talking about this very night and i talk about how silly we were and how silly i think i am and my 12 year old niece says “tanta jenny, you’re not silly at all”… and i realized she is right! i have lost my silly and desperately need to bring it back. my husband, keithy, is silly so much of the time- and i get annoyed and tell him to stop. my kids are silly and i tolerate it- mind you i don’t behave like i enjoy it. what happened to me? i used to be this fun loving, happy go lucky silly girl and now i am a fun fearing, happy but afraid of everything not silly woman. well i am hoping to change my direction and re learn to have more fun and be silly.
of course silly isn’t for everyone, and for those who’ve never been this way no need to want it, but i miss it. i miss the carefree fun attitude of a girl who could be foolish and silly at a moment’s notice. a girl who could pretend to be at a bar hanging out with a hot guy, a girl who could grab the karaoke mic just about anywhere and belt out a tune.
i’ve morphed into a boring grown up- and that’s going to change…i’m ready for a good time.
YAY!!! Go find your silly! Believe me it’s in there. And it’s not even buried that deep.
BORING, a person who talks for 2 straight hours on radio everyday. I don’t think I’d ever discribe you as boring. What would that say about me who can’t wait for 5 o’clock everyday so I can laugh along with you.
What happened was you had two kids and added a load of responsibility to your plate. And I too find that I’m yelling at my husband and daughter to knock it off as they are having fun. Hmmm, did we all just get old? Okay, get it back and I’m going to try too! We can do it!!
you’re: bringing silly back !!
(sing to Justin Timberlake’s “Sexy Back”
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Is this a New Year’s resolution? I think it’s great whatever u want to call it 😀
Jenny, you are far from boring, and you are funny every day from 4-6 (my time). You just have to carry it into your everyday life. I agree with Ariel, we have kids and we are the parent and the fear sets in. It must have to do with our hormones changing during pregnancy. Can’t wait for next week when you and Alexis are back, I am sure you will have a lot to talk about.
I agree with Ariel. You have more responsibilities and are being a mom and wife. I need to be more fun, too.
I don’t think I’ll ever be able to stop being silly…even when I do have a child.
I think I lost my silly, too. Good luck on the quest to find a good time.
You aren’t boring, though.
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I feel you, girl. Sometimes I look around and think, where did that girl go that used to be carefree and happy and adventurous. Now I let my anxieties control my behavior. I think as we get older, we become too sensible and dignified to be who we really are. Like Cyndi Lauper sings, “Girls just wanna have fu-un.”
I find that corporate life came really close to killing my silly girl. We (as a whole) need to be each other’s support group to re-claim our inner silly girl!!!
my mother once gave me plaque that says “Never lose the child within you” I keep it near my desk and reflect on it all the time.
its so easy to get caught up in adult stuff, sometimes we have to let the child in us out!
OK! Its time for you to go back to work! You have had too much free time on your hands. Your silly everyday even if you dont see it we all hear it!
I can relate! On my first date with my now husband (in 1992) he blacked out his teeth with oreo crumbs from a piece of cheesecake. Right then I knew he was the guy for me. If he did it now I’d probably roll my eyes. Count me in too for the “bring silly back” campaign. We should make t-shirts or something….
Wasn’t there an entry from your brother Brian “he’s so great” that listed all the silly things you did while waiting for your mom at the hospital? Yeah, you were probably nervous and joked because of it, but still, it’s kind of a way a silly comes out.
PS – forgot to mention that you have a very sweet story of how you met your husband. Made me smile when I read it and made me miss my husband (even though I see him every day :).
Jennifer,
Thx so much for sharing your flying tips last week 🙂
Dude, count me in! I’m sOo there…
Jennifer, you truly had one of the nicest ways of meeting your husband. Me and my hubby were very silly when we first met, it’s what I truly love about him. However, how cute is Keithy to appreciate a nice tush, that’s the best!
“Silly” leaves when the babies start arriving. OK, a little comes back so you can keep them amused. But if you think it’s bad now, just wait till they’re teenagers. Then you’ll really lose your sense of humor altogether. I think it’s great that you’re trying to reclaim your “silly”. Mine’s gone forever. Oh well. Off to make ice cream in the new LL Bean “Play & Freeze” ball with my 15 year old son. Oy.
This is why we love the 2 of you…so real and vulnerable. Great counsel – we all need to be in search of our silly in 07.
Hey, What happened to the funny dialog at the beginning of your website??
Wanna dance to Gwen?—Wind It Up??
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Hey Jennifer,
Be silly soon!! You have a great family and kick ass radio show with Alexis…..what more is there to be silly about?! Hike up ur skirt 😉
If you were silly, I’d have lunch with you for sure.
You seem to be very happy and YOU ARE SILLY, just try to remember to bring out the kid inside of you [it helps alot…] 🙂 Lifes too short not to!
Thanks for your story and inspiration to remind all of us to bring our silly back too!
Poo poo poo!
Congratulations Jennifer! Your blog really made me think about what a wet blanket I have become (and I don’t even have kids yet). I’ll be 33 tomorrow and my birthday/new years resolution will be not to be so anal and lighten up!! Thanks for letting us in. Happy New Year!
More pictures please…
p.s. I didn’t write “Poo,poo,poo!” Someone pretending to be me did…
I love the ‘your’e bringing silly back’ idea! AND I want a shirt!
I agree with you and want more of my silly back. Congrats on the Date Anniv.
Honey, that’s life. Things get serious. You have a family, a husband and kids and you start to worry. Silly leaves when responsibility takes over. It’s a shame that it happens. Usually women are the ones that have to take all of the stress on their shoulders. I don’t know why. Yes, like others said, make a resolution to bring the silliness and fun lovingness back into your life. We could all learn from that advice! Love ya! Take care and I wish you the best in the new year! Thanks for the Holiday card! 🙂
Jennifer, I know exactly what you mean!!! I too want to get in touch with the light hearted, silly person inside. I want my children to have memories of us dancing around the house or racing when we play outside not of always keeping a neat room because I made them clean all the time. I think more kids would wear smiles if the “silly” was brought back into thier lives. Imagine a life without any silly memories…how depressing.
Please let us know when you find it… I am sure it will be awhile after you find it that we know since you dont seem to post very often on the blog..!!! Why did you want web page anyway if you dont post to it?????