hi everyone!
one of my out of town friends (boston) may (or may not- it’s not over till it’s over) be going through a rotten breakup..
she came to my house to seek solace and care (hasn’t eaten, doesn’t sleep…you know the drill!)
so keith and i stayed home all day and all night with her and i decided to bake for her in the hopes that she would eat SOMETHING…plus my son ended up going to a friend’s house for dinner so i had to send a cake with him too!
i baked a big coconut cake, a small coconut cake and several mini yellow cakes with various frostings!
this is the coconut cake i sent to my son’s friend’s house… supposedly they LOVED it…even though it didn’t look perfect.
here is a slice of the smaller coconut cake i baked for my friend…she didn’t even taste it! (wish i could say the same for me!)
here are a bunch of cakes… i baked classic yellow cake but made milk chocolate frosting, vanilla frosting and of course for keithy… MOCHA frosting (which is just milk chocolate frosting with a little coffee added to it). these are all mini cakes…the size of ez bake oven cakes…but no ez bake oven ofcourse!
and then keith went to my parent’s house and raided their kitchen for his dinner…thankfully my friend finally ate some of this… the rigatoni dish is out of the rao’s cookbook…it’s rigatoni with cabbage and sausage… i LOVE the cabbage from this dish but not the sausage…
and here is my depressed friend on my couch (note: she told me to post her on the couch- said the only way she’d be comfortable crashing at my house was if i could at least blog about it!)
so…how do you mend a broken heart??? how do you help someone through a bad breakup???
maybe something to discuss on the show tomorrow…and certainly on the blog!
also…if you’d like to be our summer intern please check out last week’s blog for details about eligibility…send all resumes to whateverradiointern@gmail.com
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jennifer
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Best way to get over a broken heart is to stay busy and do things that make you feel good and sexy (mani, pedi, new outfit, etc.)
Your cakes look delish!
Broken hearts happen. What you have to do is to start filling the cracks with other things – a new friend, a new hobby, maybe some time alone traveling and renewing yourself. Then time takes care of the rest.
Poor girl, I hope she feels better soon. Although I wish I was going through a nasty break up; I could do with not eating for a few days.
you’re already helping her mend her heart jennifer. you sound like a great friend. all you can do is listen sorry you weren’t there when my heart was broken.
time heels all wounds. when she’s ready, find her a great new guy! until then just be there for her even when she repeats herself over and over again.
Allow yourself to cry and complain without feeling guilty about it… p.s. Man, that coconut cake looks GOOD!
Listen to Jules AZ, ditto to that………and Jennifer, you are a good friend.
I agree – stay busy… but ultimately the only thing that mends is TIME.
Had an older man (45), I was 33 and pregnant. He left me for a 22 year old when I was pregnant with his child. I was devastated until I realized how happy I was without him!!!! It’s like Dr. Phil says about the woman with the dog who kept running all over the neighborhood – and then finally got a fence. Man, I should have done that years ago. Time, it just takes time.
Hi Jennifer:
You and your husband are so great to be there for your friend. It shows just what kind of people you are when someone comes to you for help during such a hard time. You are very kind, compassionate, nurturing and give really good honest advice. Friends like you are very hard to come by these days. Most people are so wrapped up in themselves to even give a crap about someone else. They say that time heals…and it is true. Sometimes in life you are meant for something or someone else. This could be the beginning of a whole new life for your friend. Give her time to grieve, listen to her and then help her pick up the pieces to get her life back on track.
Jennifer, just so you know…I think you are terrific. You are real, you are funny, you are smart and you are beautiful. The perfect mantra! I Love the show. Stay Smurfy…:)
best way.. allow time (not too much depends on length of relationship) to actually process.. then…diet.. exercise..change hair color and get back in the ring of pain…
She doesn’t know it yet, but she’s lucky to be free of a relationship that clearly has taken its toll on her. She’s still young and able to find something else. Imagine it happened 15 years from now!!
First, that coconut cake just became my requested birthday cake. Thanks for that. Second, how do you mend a broken heart? I dunno but if it cheers her up, to quote Al Pacino, “She’s got a great ass.” I can tell what’s going on under that blanket. Guess I go for the baby steps approach to digging out of sadness. Seize on the little things that feel good in a day. A compliment. A lucky break. A funny email.
Only time mends a broken heart…
Awww, how sad!! I hope she feels better very soon!
Er, your friend on the couch resembles Bethenny Frankel (granted it’s her back). Did Jason break up with her because he got fired from his job due to his appearance on the Real Housewives of NYC? By the way, you are just baking your heart out! Way to go:)
I tend to drink.
I wish I had the extra income to chill with you guys for a summer. It would be my dream job, and would teach me some mad skills. just know I’m a 30-year-old intern at heart.
assuming the dude’s an ass and/or a douche – you and alexis should call him, on air, and belligerently berate and belittle him. that’d learn him!
How to mend? Frankly, you have to honestly believe that you are much better than he is and there are better ones waiting. Men are so not worth crying over. Get busy, exercise and take care of yourself. That’s all you can do. The “missing limb” thing subsides as soon as you stop thinking about it. It’s like that saying “If you don’t mind – it doesn’t matter.”
Hope your friend will feel better, it’s hard to mend a broken heart but they do heal and she will be the stronger for it.
You’re a good friend!!!
you should get her a nuddle!!
Sorry for your friend……It takes time to recover a bad breakup. About the baking, I love that yellow cake recipe. It’s THE BEST yellow cake ever. That cookbook has a great recipe for sugar cookies that you could adapt to your jimmy covered cookies. Don’t roll the whole cookie in the jimmies, just the top. If the bottom is coated it’s just too much.
nothing can help, really, just time, and then she will feel better. this is sad.
Try to keep her in the loop for parties, movie nights or whatever. The hardest part about a breakup is the lonely loser feeling that one has when their whole world is turned upside down and they don’t know what to do with their extra free time once shared with someone else. Also she should keep a gratitude journal. Get into the habit of writing down 5 things that she is grateful for every night. That starts to change your perspective. And my best advice is to vistit a good psychic. NYC is full of them (New York Magazine did an article on the best psychics in New York about 5 years ago). That way she can start thinking about all the good stuff that is ahead of her and forget about the past.
I wish I had a friend like you Jennifer!
I just threw my two-timing, a-hole boyfriend out on his ear two months ago, and I’m still trying to make the transition.
Some days are better than others.
well the best thing after a break up is to try to stay busy.
Also chances are either or both may try to have a final date so to speak. resist just get it over with move on..
i think brian said it best. some days are better than others but time marches on and she’ll be ok. here’s her new mantra………….
“got along without before i met you gonna get along without you now. gonna find somebody who’s twice as cute, cause i didn’t love you any how.”
it’s alittle long but i bet that’s how it works out for her!
That photo is so sad of your friend on the couch, I think you and your husband are wonderful friends. Time heals wounds…..I wish her all the best.
I love that you’re sending gifts of cake to the host! So Japanese to be bearing gifts.
basically…..
Time heals all wounds…..good luck to your pal..i sent you an email about a great site for lovelorn and sad love problems..
If she wants a laugh tell her to watch those American idols f up all those good songs1 this week a real treat Jenny..
Niel Diamond good lord where are my ear plugs????
Cry, don’t eat(that’s a plus), and look for a new guy!!!!Amy
Hope she is feeling better. A broken heart is no picnic but most of us have been there (including me) and what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger in the long run.
I battled cancer all last year, but it was not as debilitating as a broken heart. The body is resilient, but the heart is slow to heal.