hi everyone!
still stuck in this damn hospital…yes they are all nice but the situation is abysmal…really just abysmal.
so i’ve been talking about dr. douchebag on the show- the surgeon who thinks he’s so great… i almost told him i hate him for no valid reason but i held back! (he’s not even my mom’s dr… i’ve never met him- just see him on the floor and it’s obvious what an ahole he is!)
note: I KNOW I AM AN AHOLE FOR JUDGING SOMEONE I’VE NEVER MET BASED ON WHAT HE LOOKS LIKE…. I AM JUST TRYING TO COPE….AND ACTING OBNOXIOUS/SILLY/NAUGHTY TAKES ME AWAY FROM THE HELL FOR A MINUTE OR TWO….IT’S A STUPID DIVERSION.
NO ONE KNOWS WHO HE IS FROM THIS PICTURE…in fact alexis didn’t think the photo was close up enough.
have a sense of humor ppl…
here’s a photo i snapped of him…was totally fun to secretly take his picture…it’s the little things.
rumor has it…even the nurses think he’s an ass.
good times.
xxx
jennifer
aim:whateverradio
facebook: jennifer koppelman hutt
Jennifer,
Put this guy in his place!! I can tell by the way he is standing in the pic hes an ass. They are all asses. Why do you think I am a “former”. I guarantee you if you put him in his place he will turn around…
btw I have been where you are with a very sick mother and I KNOW how you feel. I am very sorry for you. I you tell this guy off you will probably feel much better! 🙂
Still hoping and praying for your mom Jennifer…hope she gets to go home very soon.
Timeless memories is what you made from here on end, happy or sad. I think it’s great you took this shot and shared it. keep going with this pic shots and you will not regret it, months and years of story-telling to come. Remember, your are the seed of your mother and a branch and with this goes story telling to your young children, relatives and elders who forget. Your strong and may not feel it. Keep taking pictures and logged everything. Feel the moment and crying is part of the story, don’t stop.
You are so hilarious! OMG
What’s with the lil stance he has?…Isshhh if I were sick I wouldn’t want that in my room.
Hope your mom comes home soon! :).
definitely has an “I am God” stance. The other day I was waiting for a fight at Ohare and in one of the airport bars was a guy in scrubs. Couldnt figure out WHY the Hell he was wearing scrubs, besides wanting everyone to know he has sometype of hospital job.
jen, why don’t u secretly record his voice on ur cell phone while u’re talking to him? i bet he’s high pitched or quacks like a duck! it’s because he wears tight pants does he not? also, a lot of surgeons have the nurses s..k their dickies in between surgeries. that’s because they share the same locker rooms and little rooms. notice how many surgeons are married to nurses!
As a former NY and LI’er and one who knew your Dad and 2 band members a very long time ago, even briefly I can relate to all the NY kind of stuff. As a guy who went through similar hospital time with my Dad and Dad in law I can relate to that stuff. My wife and I are your parents age and sort of feel as if we are in a tiny way related to your family. Strange but the media does that to you. As we go through anything and we hear it from you on the show we have a connection with you, even though it is really 1 way. No Jennifer we and the thousands that listen to the show are part of your life and have a kinship bond. We are there to support and help in any way. Even a tiny prayer or comment is our way of telling you we all have love for you and your family. Whatever happens we and your extended family out in the ether are there for you. Hey, Ringo told us on July 7th at 12 noon for his birthday tell the person next to you “love and peace”. I extend the same to your and the family and hope all turns out well.
10 years ago my mom was hospitalized for cancer. I had the audacity to ask one too many questions of her surgeon and he became so pompous and irritated that he embarrassed me in front of my entire family by telling me he had already “covered” that and “again and again, and again and again I’ll tell you one more time. I’m still mad at myself for not putting the jackass in his place. I saw him a few years ago at a store and I had to leave because the sight of him made me furious all over again. I so regret not looking him up later and telling him how out of line and unprofessional he was. I was so emotional during my moms stay that I didn’t trust myself and he (at the time) really made me feel as though I’d done something wrong. Be your moms advocate, don’t get pushed around, ask as many questions as you want as OFTEN as you want-you didn’t go to medical school and some of these aholes just talk over your head to show off. Sending good wishes your way.
A couple of malpractice lawsuits will shape him up eventually!!
xoxo
Mica in Miami
Very sorry for what you and your family are going thru right now. I wish you strength and much love!
I love your singing, Jennifer. You should do more.
gotta love the slight “bend” in his hips 🙂 hahahaa
Jenn, my thoughts are with you. went thru similar with my father. Feel for you big time.
I can’t see anything in the picture to indicate that the Dr is an ass. Although, I’ll take your word for it, I don’t think it is wise to post a picture of him that his co-workers might recognize. Its just unnecessary to target this guy and cause him to be the object of ridicule at work. He didn’t cause your pain. JO
Even from the back you can see this guy is an arrogant dick.
Prayers to you and your family. Know one thing – no matter what – you and your mother will never be parted. Love is the strongest force there is.
jen, i think you might have a little crush on him…. ; )
Jennifer~
Please know I know where you are at…I’ve been there & it is NOT a fun place to be. Please keep your chin up. Your radio family is all pulling for you and your real family.
Just about 3 years ago I spent too much time at hospitals between my NICU baby(who is just fine now) and my massive, sudden stroke father. I thought I’d never recover…
The only thing I can pass only is that you grow from this experience. You are learning, even though you just want to cry and hide. I promise. Make your mom proud of you, you know she already is. As we, your radio family, are.
Jennifer-
During my two week time in intensive care, the nurses were way more supportive and knowledgable than the doctors. They didn’t have an ego and were there to help as much as possible. The doctors just had the degree but didn’t know any practicalities about bedside manner and actually listening to the patient. I hope that your mom has wonderful nurses and is able to find the few wonderful doctors that do also exist, just not in the numbers that the nurses do.
You should focus on creating positive energy in the hospital. Caddy, judgmental energy doesn’t help anyone, esp not the patients. Jokes are one thing, nasty judgments about someone you have never met when you are in HIS workplace are another. You can be angry that this is being said to you or you can take heed. Negative NEVER breeds positive.
he is A Heartless DICK WITH EARS who is in it for the money CARMA will get him! Been through this with my Aunt, lots of prayers going up for all of you!
Jennifer just imagine him tied up with a gag ball in his mouth and you controlling the butt plug…I know its a little sick but it should make you giggle a little bit!
Hoping your mommy gets better soon,and things are easier for you all.
Jen…you know what they say…..if it walks like a asshole doc…looks like aasshole doc…quacks like a asshole doc…..its probably an asshole doc….love ya
That happened to my Dad in Miami at Humana. He had an Ecuadorian doctor (who actually was unlicensed). He went in for a triple bypass. All went well. When we came to visist I saw him sweating badly. Called in nurse. She said no problemo. Next day no Dad in room. After finally finding what happened -he was back in surgery. He got gangrene in 1 leg. Then in two within another few days. Seems they take a vain from each leg for the bypass. He came out with no legs! A few weeks later he called me. Told me he fell off the wheelchair and was on the floor at the hospital and lain there for an hour. He said he didn’t want to be like this. In 3 days he just died. He was healthy except for the heart problem and always strong Like Ox. SO yes Mica in Miami legal battles. Not on LI where I should have taken him.
Jennifer…I agree with grandmajro and Vibes, I thought you were a nice girl.
And all you bloggers who jumped on the bandwagon hang your head in shame!!
Jennifer,
I went through this last year with my younger brother (45) and we couldn’t take the hospital anymore and they were not helping him. He was getting sicker from the treatment. He begged us to put a stop to all the stupid tests and endless round of needles, so we did.
We brought him home and got him 24 hour care and eventually moved him to Hospice and it was dignified and planned, (read, we controlled his last days as a family, which is what he wanted, and not strangers) and it was peaceful.
We have no regrets and although it was a difficult responsibility to assume, Hospice was very supportive and helped us get set up at home before we even brought him home.
Just a thought.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family and your loving Mother.
Ever considered that guy might be in the airport in scrubs because he is on a transplant run using commercial instead of the usual private jets?
Ever consider that doctor swaggers around because he is ill equipped to deal with the pain and death he is surrounded by and his ‘asshole’ way is some sort of coping mechanism?
Ever consider nurses are capable of being more compassionate/caring/thoughtful because their shift is over at 3pm and they leave their responsibility for the patient with the next nurse while the physician is ultimately responsible for every aspect of the patients care until his or her discharge.
FYI, to nurse means ‘to nurture’ a physician’s practice is to heal.
A charming bedside manner is such a plus, but in the end I want the person operating on my child/parent/friend to have skilled hands and a capable mind.
I’m so amused by all the urging to ‘set him straight’, ‘put him in his place’…….first of all she said she has never even met him and secondly, she lives in New York on the North Shore of Long Island…….putting every self important ‘douchebag’ in his place could be a life’s work!
Their are alot of Dr.’s in the hospital who think that they are GOD. What a surprise to tell them they are NOT! They are almost mortified. I can’t stand when epople are like that!! Tell him he bleeds just like you and the guy down the street. Sometimes they get it.Amy
My daughter was in a a near fatal car accident…the surgeon who put her neck back together was brilliant…he lacked humility…however…he could have been a horse’s ass for all I care..as long as he took care of my child. I think you need to grow up and find something more mature to take your mind off of your situation. You are not the only person in the world to go through the trauma of watching a parent suffer. There are better ways of coping than making fun of someone you haven’t met. Continued prayers for your mom…and hoping that you will grow up soon.
You’re all retarded lemmings.
There are good and bad doctors everywhere. When a family is in a crisis situation with their loved one, sensitivities are heightened. I thank God that I did not work so I was able to be with my dad all day at the hospital here in Miami. There are horror stories all over the US in hospitals. He was lucky and got excellent care (Baptist Hospital) but I still needed to be there to listen to the doctors, review procedures with the nurses and yes watch what they are doing. I fed him, I wiped him, I did a lot and the nurses/doctors were grateful. This is especially necessary when dealing with the elderly.
Let’s cut Jen some slack, if she is rubbed the wrong way by the surgeon ‘WHO CARES’! I am sure he will get over it…
xoxo
Mica in Miami
I hope you are suing…
Don’t be too hard on yourself for the diversion. A little relief from hospital hell is a good thing. Thank goodness he’s not your Mom’s doctor. Hang in there, you’re all in our thoughts.
Well then why was he downing beer after beer in the airport bar with his scrubs on? He was no transplant carrier. He was a SIP self important person.
My husband is a doctor in NYC and I think a lot of patient’s are pig vomits and act like they are at a spa– when in fact most do not even have insurance. So maybe I can understand why he comes off as an ass. Certainly Bunny is not one of those patients. But a lot of patients are nightmares. As far as nurses… They think they are doctors.. And jesus they could not be farther from that…
yep…douchebag!
i request more covert missions.
This is totally changing the subject…but something that helped my mom while my dad was sick with cancer, was things to help with the time. We brought her a 1000 piece puzzle….and it helped her. When family would come in and set for a while..it was something to take our minds in another direction. Many times I would be setting there with my Dad working on the puzzle…talking to him about this and that. That was 3 years ago…to this day…my mom has a puzzle going…..for anyone to work on that come to visit. I hope this idea doesn’t come across as dumb. Take care xx
Alright Terri..FINALLY someone has tried to make you realize Jen.. altho you are going through the WORST experience of your SHORT life..you.ll want to look back and be proud you treated this experience w/dignity..we know you are there w/so much LOVE …thats what.s got to get you thru this….my prayers to Bunny and your LOVEly FAMILY…
What a horrible comment to make about nurses. Your information obviously comes from your “surgeon” husband, as I am sure you are very busy with soccer practice. I am sure he would be proud of you using such choice phrases as: “patient’s are pig vomits” Very classy.
people take things so damn literally – call people all the names you want to if it makes you feel better 😉
Your comment made me laugh, especially re: the nurse part. They’re the ones who pick up on your husbands mistakes, missy! They’re the ones who actually know their patients names without having to read their chart first! They’re the ones who try their best to bring a smile to their patients face, and their families! They’re the ones who treat patients with dignity and respect! They’re the ones who don’t feel superior to others (as many docs do)! They’re the ones who provide 90% of the care through out a patients hospital stay! They’re the ones who rub your back and hold your hand as you loved one takes their last breathe! No, they aren’t doctors… they’re nurses, and without nurses doctors would fall and crumble, and without doctors, nurses would fall and crumble!
Folks wake up! Nurses are great. Are they doctors? Absolutely not. Is the pilot offering you a beverage-NO. He is busy doing his/her work. Jennifer took a picture of a doctor and thought he was acting like an ass. Pull yourselves together and remember a hospital is a business, It is cruel, but it is life. There is an old saying when someone is at work… Am I here to make money or friends? Come on People!
And guess what? I am not at soccer practice- wish I was! I own my own business FUCKTARDS!
If you think nurses are so holy, why should they even ask for compensation. Wake up folks!
JENNIFER, you just do what you gotta do girl. What you’re going through is so awful. It’s a part of LOVE — it’s not that you’re ugly, some people just don’t understand.
whether you run your own business or not…unless you are in a hospital setting, you only see things from your husband’s point of view. Life’s hard; we all know that, but it was COMPLETELY unnecessary to come to this site, read Jennifer’s story and make snide comments about talk about patients and nurses. Everyone knows there are GREAT doctors. There are also quite a few asshole doctors…you should know that as I’m sure a lot of your social life is among them. They’re are a lot of doctors that treat patients and family members like they are beneath them, thus the phrase good or bad bedside manner. Being busy or life is cruel is no excuse for being an ass to someone in a vulnerable position. It’s part of the doctor’s job to answer all these questions, to treat sick people with respect and worried family members with respect. The disdain you show for those people is a poor reflection of your compassion for people who are not you or your family… Jennifer was stressed, treated poorly and wanted to vent. She came to her blog to get it out. If you want to vent make your own blog.
On behalf of Lemmings throughout the world you should be ashamed of yourself Felicia
Hey, Jen. Your best is all you can ask of yourself. Keeping your sense of humor in all this can’t be easy. Don’t let them get you down. Bless ya!
THANK YOU to “just a thought” for this: “but it was COMPLETELY unnecessary to come to this site, read Jennifer’s story and make snide comments…”
And to the other person who told Jennifer to grow up and realize she is not the only person who has gone through this… well that’s just MEAN!
I don’t care HOW MANY people have gone through this, there is nothing, ever in life that prepares one for the loss
— worse yet, debilitating illness of– a beloved parent! Nobody, no matter how “grown up” one may be, is going to be her usual perky self when consumed by such immense feelings of helplessness and grief!
Sure, we all know that the likelihood is great that we will one day lose our parents –better than their losing us, right?– but when that kick in the gut comes, we find that, although we may have been aware of this inevitability, we were not prepared for the depth of feeling it provokes, the roller coaster of emotion. How could we be? We only lose a mother once!
Seeing her suffer, unable to ease that for her… It’s devastating. How crass, how totally insensitive of anyone to presume to tell Jennifer how she should cope, how she should FEEL!
Re doctors and nurses. I work with them daily (AM one, won’t say which) and after 30 years experience can say, unequivocally, that there are several “types” who enter this field of medicine. You have your basic, “it’s just a job” type, who somehow remain aloof and unattached; your “Florence Nightingale” type, who truly derive altruistic pleasure from care-giving; and then there are the sadists who actually enjoy seeing others suffer! Yes, in this field there are those who INFLICT pain (even through giving injections or other painful treatments they get off, really!) And of course, the narcissists, the “look at me I’m in scrubs and I can save you –or not but I sure can score dates” and that picture is not pretty but it’s real.
To Jennifer, my heart goes out to you and your family. I promise, this WILL get easier. The pain of loss will never go away and the void will often seem to grow somehow. But you will smile and laugh again and feel no guilt for doing so.
Right now, you take whatever you need to help you –and help your mom– through this.
And no, you don’t need to “grow up, buck up, be strong” if you don’t want to.
Right now you’re just a little girl who wants her mommy, and that, my dear IS ALLOWED!
Peace and aloha…