I don’t know how you comics do it. Night after night you haul your bums up on random stages in even more random towns and make people laugh. Or at least try to make people laugh.
Often you succeed. Often you don’t.
Always you comics go back for more!
You have much stronger innards than I!
Last night, in a not so quaint restaurant in the bustling outskirts of Cancun (Mayan Riviera) I miscalculated the crowd.
Well actually I didn’t miscalculate the crowd. I miscalculated the people at the table next to us who had engaged us in some innocuous conversation. Or maybe we engaged them?!
But what I do know is I made a joke. And It fell flat.
The dad at THEIR table hates me.
My joke was actually more a sarcastic tongue in cheek comment- my delivery has always been my strength or my delivery HAD always been my strength… Ugh.
I’m very free with my issues- my weight, dead mother, kids, husband, wrinkles, sags, pms, aging.
‘m not super sensitive really about any of it.
And on the occasion that I am sensitive- usually I will cop to that- admit my insecure moment- and move on.
Clearly, my expectation that all are ok with THEIR stuff is wrong.
Are you from Long Island?!
US: North Shore
Them: Us too..
US: What year did you graduate high school?
HIM-the dad: ’77
ME: oh. You’re old! (Said with deadpan makes my radio fans laugh not really meaning he was old- he’s just 11 years older than me!)
He was silent. And angry. I hurt his feelings. I wasn’t funny.
Ouch. Ugh. Oops.
The conversation continued a little bit-
Until it ended. Somewhat abruptly.
We paid our check and as we were leaving I went over to the man and apologized.
ME: I’m sorry for upsetting you.
I was just kidding making as joke!
HIM: What was the joke?
I was flustered and couldn’t respond.
My joke made him feel bad.
What explanation would make it ok?
So now I’m combing the beach looking for this man- to say I’m sorry again-
I gotta get over it.
If my intent was to make all laugh and I failed- isn’t that punishment enough?
My sarcasm is going to be tabled for a while. At least for today. Or an hour.
What would you do?
Merry Everything Everyone!!!